Casey Murphy is a Certified Sex Educator, pleasure product industry veteran, and sexual wellness brand strategist.
Many dildos don’t vibrate, but that doesn’t mean they’re a buzzkill. However, dildos are often overlooked for one reason or another. Especially for those who:
- Discovered the clit before the G-spot and never looked back
- Rarely (or never) experience internal or vaginal orgasms
- Need vibration to orgasm
- Find phallic sex toys unappealing
While these experiences are valid, they can create false narratives over time in regards to your pleasure potential. If you’re accustomed to the magic of vibrating sex toys, you may ask, “why learn to drive a stick when an automatic is quicker?”
From stunning precious stones to textured tentacle dildos, these unique sex toys enable all genders, sexual identities, experience levels, and body types to practice slow and mindful pleasure mapping, explore sexual curiosities, indulge in fantasies, and even discover metaphysical healing with or without a partner.
- Grant yourself permission to be fully present without the expectation of an orgasmic experience.
- Try different rhythms, angles, and pressures. Maybe you’re the short and shallow type. Maybe you’re seduced by slow and deep thrusts.
- Use a sex pillow for deep G-Spot access.
- Stick a suction cup dildo to most flat and dry surfaces, or wrap a strap-on thigh harness around a pillow or a chair.
- Bear down by squeezing the pelvic floor muscles. Combine deep, repetitive thrusting to help achieve a squirting orgasm.
- Use a vibrator for full-body arousal, but only on the nipples, thighs, or for indirect genital stimulation.
- Top off your solo sesh with a touch of external vibration for a blended orgasm, the bliss of both worlds.
Dildo Tips for Partner Play
- A dildo during mutual masturbation can strengthen your connection with your partner. It’s hot to see and becomes an intimate, visual tutorial on how best to please you.
- Alleviate performance pressure with a dildo if your partner isn’t ready for another round, experiences erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, or wants a supplement for a small penis. A partner who values your pleasure will see a dildo as an ally, not an adversary.
- Put a condom on the dildo if you’re sharing with a partner or alternating between vaginal and anal.
- A flared base on a dildo is required for anal play.
- Choose a body-safe, non-porous material like silicone, stainless steel, or glass.
- Clean with antibacterial soap and warm water or sex toy cleaner before and after use.
- Be generous with lube to reduce friction and enhance glide. Water-based and hybrid lubes are compatible with all sex toys, but silicone lube and silicone toys don’t mix.
- One size does not fit all! Start small, and work your way up. Short dildos can help control penetration depth. Slim dildos can be used as dilators, therapy for vaginismus, or for pelvic floor tension.
- No need to invest in the Cadillac of dildos right away. There are many body-safe, budget-friendly options.
Pleasure mapping is an ongoing process of discovery. Don’t get hung up on your destination or the duration of the trip. Use your body’s response as a compass, and enjoy the ride.
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