Hello again, dear friend Anonymous. Welcome back to our sex talk column where readers submit questions, and then we have an expert answer them.
Our latest submission came from a poll we conducted on Instagram. The topic: anal sex. Particularly what you need to know from front to back before losing your B-card.
We tapped the founder and CEO of Runi, Felicia Hershenhorn (a sex education expert), for her trove of tips on how first-timers can make their anal sex experience as pleasurable as possible.
So, relax your nerves and your rectum, and take a look at what she had to say.
Lube, lube, and more lube!
Because your tush does not self-lubricate like a vagina, it is important to prep the area. When it comes to application, remember that too much lube is almost enough. Anal penetration without adequate lubrication can tear the tissue in your anus. If dry friction occurs, this can make you more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections and diseases. RUNI’s Play Primer is amazing for anal play because the ingredients can help relax your anal sphincter and prime you for your ultimate pleasure play.
Remember consent is f*cking hot. Nothing is sexier than being open with yourself and with your partner about what you want and need, so start slow and check in throughout the process. See if you want to try and explore more or if you want less pullback. You can start off with anal masturbation and self-exploration. Then, excite your nerve endings with different sensations by inviting your partner for some tongue action or “rimming.” Use toys and experiment with different positions like spooning, lying flat on your tummy, or even placing a pillow under your hips to elevate the pelvis for your best angle, baby.
If things start to get uncomfortable and you experience bleeding or pain, you should immediately stop and seek medical advice as soon as possible.
Even though the risk of pregnancy is unlikely with anal, condoms are essential for safe and pleasurable anal play to reduce and prevent the spread of unwanted sexually transmitted infections and diseases. FYI—not all condoms are compatible with all lubes and toys, so double-check the compatibility of materials before you start.
If you are sticking things in your butt, shit can happen, literally. A little pre-play prep is essential to making the encounter clean, fun, enjoyable, and relaxing. Make sure to empty your bowels as thoroughly as possible, and clean the area using a washcloth and water or even a full shower or bath.
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