We are all searching for that special someone—the one who just gets us and accepts us, unconditionally. We often refer to this as finding our “soul mate” or “twin flame.” But what do these concepts really mean, and how do you know when you’ve found them? Let’s dive deeper and explore how we define, and find, love.
A soul mate is an instant match, an energy force that draws two people together. It’s literally a mate to your soul, and things just click! For some, this means they’ve found the love of their life, a mate for a lifetime. For others, and probably for far more of us, our soul can have several mates over the course of our lives. Sometimes, we simply “outgrow” a relationship. A soul mate is not necessarily your forever person. They can be your perfect person for a certain period in your life, offering lessons that help you grow, evolve, and move forward.
In a twin flame relationship, two people become one—much like two flames that merge together, completing one another. Sharing so many similarities, it can feel like looking in a mirror. Some days, you like what you see. Others, you don’t. Because your twin flame is a reflection of who you are, this love can be, at times, seamless and effortless, at other times challenging. It can be the most gratifying of relationships, but you must be ready for this level of self-discovery.
Tips for finding love (of all kinds)
Love has a lot of layers, but the only layer you can ever really address is you. How do you approach relationships, and more importantly, what are you looking for? You can’t control when or where you encounter love, but you can prepare yourself to be ready when it arrives. Here are a few tips for navigating the journey of love.
Tip 1: Put Yourself Out There.
Keep an open mind and an open heart. When it’s right, you will attract the perfect relationship at the perfect time. For now, be vulnerable, let down your walls, and get crystal clear on what you want.
Tip 2: Take the Pressure Off.
Start to view your relationships as opportunities for growth, rather than the be-all-end-all. Once you shift your perspective of how you see relationships, you’ll know that love isn’t limited to one experience. Instead, look at each relationship as a learning experience to help you evolve.
Tip 3: Reflect on Your Relationships.
Reflecting on current or previous relationships, try to identify and shed any belief systems or behaviors that do not serve you so that you can prevent those same patterns from repeating in the future.
Tip 4: Use Crystals.
Crystals are a powerful tool to help manifest your intentions and unlock your own personal power. Malachite harnesses the power of transformation. Use it to help channel your inner strength and resolve as you work to transform your life for the better. Rose quartz can be used to help open your heart to love. Remember, love is the ultimate endeavor, but you can only love others at the level that you love yourself.
Heather Askinosie is the cofounder of Energy Muse, a leading provider of healing crystals and crystal jewelry, along with her business partner, Timmi Jandro. For over 20 years, Heather has been a leading influencer on the power of crystals, feng shui, and holistic healing. Heather and Timmi authored the book Crystal Muse: Everyday Rituals to Tune In to the Real You (Hay House, 2017), and Heather’s full-color guide to 52 crystals, CRYSTAL365, launched in November 2019.
