We have all been there.
We meet someone, and there is a mutual spark, or maybe we see someone and want to get their attention. So, the first thing we do is try to be whatever we think our “best self” is.
Unfortunately, your “best self” is often more informed by what you admire than what the other person might admire. Chances are, you don’t want to attract the mirror of yourself. You want someone who complements you—and who is looking FOR YOU!
Here are some quick shifts that I have taught to people of all ages who are looking to find their partner.
Some of these suggestions may sound odd—until you experience their results. One of my favorite quotes and a winning formula is “The good scientist suspends disbelief and runs the experiment anyway.”
When do you feel the best, and what puts you in that state? Is it exercise, singing, massage, writing?
Whatever it is, try doing it before meetings, parties, or any other activity where you might encounter your person.
Think back to a few occasions when you felt the way you wish to feel all the time. Practice being inside those memories. Notice how your body feels, and make that state a habit that you can call up whenever someone interests you.
We are sending out signals all the time. Other people feel what we feel. Use that telepathy to express, even over a distance, who you are—and then notice who comes into your life.
Create your life with your partner.
Making a physical space for a partner to enter into takes your relationship goals from the ethereal world of fantasy into tangible reality. Get it all out of your messy head, and make a physical place or perform a physical act—a ritual—that can grow with your intuitive awareness of the relationship you are creating.
It helps if you make physical representations of your hopes to give them a real place in the world.
For instance, you might want to create an altar, a tangible location where you can focus your wish and see and move your pieces. Altars are suggestions to the patterns of energy around us. You can make the whole world your altar. Place meaningful objects that have your energy and attention everywhere you go.
You might use a pebble on the street or a note or drawing you stick into a cranny of a building. I sometimes use a handful of birdseed and hold it while feeling my love hold me. Then I scatter the seeds, allowing the birds to come and spread my message.
Speaking of which…
Let the people who love you know you are looking for love. Although energetic shifts work on their own, when you follow up on them with practical actions, you create an even more effective and powerful dynamic.
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