As a mom of two and a pelvic floor trainer, I talk to more women about sex than most. And what do I hear? Women are often not having the sex lives they wish. They’re tired and not feeling engaged with their partner, they just want to “get it over with” or even avoid sex altogether. Lots of women don’t orgasm during intercourse without clitoral stimulation. Just this week a woman told me, “I have never had an orgasm.” Too many women are not only not having orgasms from intercourse, but not climaxing at all.
This is not how it has to be. While clitoral orgasms are amazing, G-spot orgasms are a different kind of incredible orgasm, and most of us are capable of having them. G-spot stimulation can not only lead to vaginal orgasms but also multiple orgasms, alone or in conjunction with clitoral stimulation.
If you are reading and are one of the women not orgasming, I want you to know I used to be right there with you. I had never had vaginal orgasms, let alone multiple orgasms, until I fixed my pelvic floor dysfunction through pelvic floor training. That literally changed it all for me. In order for most women to have vaginal orgasms, including multiple ones, position and movement are key. Trust me, once you know how to get there, you will not want to go back … and neither will your partner.
Now let’s get started on helping you achieve those orgasms you deserve!
Position is key. It is by far the easiest, for most women, to have an orgasm from intercourse if they are on top. This allows their hips and nerve pathways to be the most open, helping them climax. You might be thinking: but I hate being on top, it is exhausting and can be vulnerable. So read on to discover how to not feel tired or awkward but instead revved up, powerful, and climaxing.
MOVES TO HELP YOU GET THERE
While lots of partners love an up and down motion, instead try these two tried and true moves, which can be done facing your partner or turned away from your partner while on top (reverse cowgirl). The moves also are much easier and less tiring to do for a long period of time, leaving you energy to keep going and reap the benefits over and over. This will help you stimulate your G-spot to get you those vaginal orgasms.
The BEST move to help you achieve internal orgasms is the front-to-back pelvic tilt (see video). Using that motion—sitting tall on top of your partner instead of a stability ball—stimulates the front of your vaginal wall and the internal structure of your clitoris, which can help push you over the edge into those deep internal orgasms you’ve been wanting to have. Stay relaxed and keep doing the pelvic tilts, focusing on going from neutral to a front pelvic tilt. Take your time, there is no rush! This should be pleasurable, not stressful. Once you have one orgasm, keep going—more could be just around the corner. You can also try adding mild clitoral stimulation to enhance your arousal as you feel your way through the process.
The other move to help you achieve internal climax is hip circles (see video). Again, move as you do on the stability ball, sitting up tall, rotating your hips in small circles. You can circle your hips continuously in one direction or change it up and alternate directions. Besides helping you climax, it will drive your partner wild—not only will the motion feel incredible for him, but you will also look sexy and powerful. Again, don’t stop once you climax. Both of these moves can help you orgasm over and over.
If you still aren’t getting there with the tips above and the Five Vagina Exercises for Better Sex, know that the stronger and more responsive your pelvic floor is, the easier you will achieve climax, whether internal, clitoral, or blended. Pelvic floor training on a consistent basis can help you have orgasms and potentially even multiple orgasms. While you can’t visually see the results of training your pelvic floor as we can our thighs or our triceps, there are many amazing benefits, and mind-blowing orgasms and sex are at the top of that list for me.