Hello again, dear friend Anonymous. Welcome back to our sex talk column where readers submit questions, and we do our research and craft a story to answer. The topic of our latest submission: What is the Kivin Method?
We, too, have been curious about this oral sex technique, so we tapped certified sex therapist Aliyah Moore, Ph.D. to share.
Below, she explains what the Kivin Method is, what it feels like, and how to do it.
What is the Kivin Method?
“During oral sex, the Kivin method is one of the most common sexual techniques used to arouse one’s clitoris. This technique requires the individual engaging in oral sex with a woman to approach her genital area at a diagonal angle, departing from the conventional vertical positioning. It is intended to offer a novel feeling with extra intensity through its unorthodox angle of stimulating the clitoris. Using this approach, people can increase the number of sensations and possibly make each sexual act more diverse and exciting.”
“The feeling that one experiences with the Kivin Method is unique because the degree of sensitivity varies among individuals. Some people might find the diagonal method unusual since it presents a new angle of stimulation to the clitoris. Some people experience straight-up pressure and motion, which can be more direct and intense, possibly causing greater arousal and stronger orgasms.
“However, it should be noted that feeling is highly subjective. This may be very exciting and satisfying to some people, while others may not feel any remarkable variations from the regular oral sex techniques.”
“Kivin Method takes place during oral sex, which mainly involves clitoral stimulation. In executing this method, the oral stimulating partner should come at the genital area from a diagonal position as opposed to the traditional upright or horizontal positions.
“The receiver of oral sex usually lies on their back, and the partner/giver is positioned between the legs of the receiver. The partner tilts their head and positions their mouth at an angle of approximately 45 degrees.
“The partner/giver stimulates the clitoris and the surrounding area using their lips and tongue in a soft and rhythmic manner.
“It is important to communicate with your partner before trying any new sexual technique. Talk about their comfort zone, needs, and limits to make the experience mutually pleasant.
“Remember to be attentive to both your partner’s spoken and unspoken signals in order to assess their satisfaction. Modify the angle, pressure, and pace in response to their cues to increase their enjoyment.”
What are some tips for the Kivin Method?
“Create an environment that is comfortable and soothing for both of you. The experience becomes much better when stress is minimized.
“Patience is also a crucial element when it comes to enhancing your intimate experiences. Instead of rushing, it’s essential to invest time and effort in cultivating anticipation and desire. Playful teasing and increasing excitement levels can make the orgasm more profound and electrifying. This approach provides a more intense sexual experience that brings you and your partner increased satisfaction and pleasure.”
Aliyah Moore (she/her) is a certified sex therapist with a Ph.D. in Gender and Sexuality Studies, and a writer.
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