Skip to main content
Close Close

Congratulations
You're on the list.

Make sure to check your spam folder so that our emails are always delivered into your inbox.
xo, Kourt
Give your inbox
and your life

the Poosh it needs.
By clicking SIGN UP, you agree to receive emails from Poosh and agree to our terms of use and privacy policy.
Free Shipping on All Domestic Orders.
  • HEALTH + WELLNESS
  • LIFE + STYLE
  • HOME + ENTERTAINING
  • KKB
Poosh
  • instagram pinterest facebook twitter youtube join newsletter
  • Shop
  • search
  • search
  • body
  • diy
  • fitness
  • Giving Back
  • health
  • mind
  • Relationships
  • Sexual Wellness
  • soul
This Creamy Lemon Olive Oil Elixir Is the Cure for Water Retention
This Creamy Lemon Olive Oil Elixir Is the Cure for Water Retention
Do These 3 Things for Your Gut and Get the Best Sleep Ever
Do These 3 Things for Your Gut and Get the Best Sleep Ever
3 Reasons to Stop Saying “I’m Dead” and What to Say Instead, According to a Psychologist
3 Reasons to Stop Saying “I’m Dead” and What to Say Instead, According to a Psychologist
This Multitasking SPF Completes My Lazy-Girl Morning Routine
This Multitasking SPF Completes My Lazy-Girl Morning Routine
Are all Calories Created Equal?
Are all Calories Created Equal?
Can a Friend be Your Soulmate?
Can a Friend be Your Soulmate?
  • Adulting
  • beauty
  • guides
  • Hacks
  • style
  • travel
This Multitasking SPF Completes My Lazy-Girl Morning Routine
This Multitasking SPF Completes My Lazy-Girl Morning Routine
Clean-ish SPFs You’ll Actually Enjoy Wearing
Clean-ish SPFs You’ll Actually Enjoy Wearing
Embracing My Inner Romantic Is the Bravest Thing I’ve Ever Done
Embracing My Inner Romantic Is the Bravest Thing I’ve Ever Done
How This Serum Changed My Morning/Makeup Routine
How This Serum Changed My Morning/Makeup Routine
Quiet Luxury Isn’t a Look—It’s a Whole Mood 
Quiet Luxury Isn’t a Look—It’s a Whole Mood 
Steph Shep Shares Her Fave AAPI Brands To Know and Love
Steph Shep Shares Her Fave AAPI Brands To Know and Love
  • decor
  • entertaining
  • kids
  • motherhood
  • Playlists
  • recipes
This Creamy Lemon Olive Oil Elixir Is the Cure for Water Retention
This Creamy Lemon Olive Oil Elixir Is the Cure for Water Retention
These Hacks Make Small-Space Living SO Much Easier 
These Hacks Make Small-Space Living SO Much Easier 
Our 7 Most-Shared Recipes 
Our 7 Most-Shared Recipes 
Under $50: Outdoor Entertaining Essentials
Under $50: Outdoor Entertaining Essentials
Kourt’s Coconut Pudding Recipe
Kourt’s Coconut Pudding Recipe
The New Matcha Mule 818 Cocktail Recipe
The New Matcha Mule 818 Cocktail Recipe
  • family
  • kourtney
An Exclusive Peek at Khloé Kardashian’s Blooming Garden Trellis
An Exclusive Peek at Khloé Kardashian’s Blooming Garden Trellis
Why Kourt is Obsessed With Nettle Tea
Why Kourt is Obsessed With Nettle Tea
Under $20: Clever Fridge Organizers Inspired by Kris Jenner
Under $20: Clever Fridge Organizers Inspired by Kris Jenner
The Asian-Inspired Chickpea Salad Kourt Can’t Stop Reaching For 
The Asian-Inspired Chickpea Salad Kourt Can’t Stop Reaching For 
BTS: Kourt and Travis’ Personal Photos from Their Portofino Wedding
BTS: Kourt and Travis’ Personal Photos from Their Portofino Wedding
3 Salads Kourt is Eating on Rotation Right Now
3 Salads Kourt is Eating on Rotation Right Now
What are you looking for?

Menu

  • Shop
  • HEALTH + WELLNESS
    • body
    • diy
    • fitness
    • Giving Back
    • health
    • mind
    • Relationships
    • Sexual Wellness
    • soul
  • HOME + ENTERTAINING
    • decor
    • entertaining
    • kids
    • motherhood
    • Playlists
    • recipes
  • KKB
    • family
    • kourtney
  • LIFE + STYLE
    • Adulting
    • beauty
    • guides
    • Hacks
    • style
    • travel
  • Newsletter
instagram pinterest facebook twitter youtube join newsletter
Sexual Wellness

DIGITAL SEX: Keeping Your Love Life Spicy

By Kate Balestrieri
share on pinterest share on facebook share on twitter Share on Flipboard share by email
 Photo credit @endlesslyloveclub
@endlesslyloveclub

Since the advent of the wheel, people have looked to advancing technologies to improve the quality of their lives. In digital times, there is an app for everything. We can have our food delivered, homes cleaned, waxing appointments scheduled, and bills paid within seconds. Now more than ever, digital sex is the safest route. From education to interactions, technology is changing the way we connect, love, and have sex as well.

A panoply of dating apps and websites has given us access to people with whom we may have never otherwise connected. This is great for people looking to forge new connections, casually or for long-term relationships. The flip side of so many options is that it can create paralysis around commitment, keeping people in ambivalent holding patterns, because they may continuously be searching for the illusion of greener grass elsewhere.

Apps with video features offer many ways to play with partners and create heat together, when being in the same room isn’t feasible. Designed for the on-the-fly photographer in anyone, they make it easier than ever to send a partner a sexy snap and get some dirty talk started. Teasing is nothing new in dating or relationships, but technology offers many ways to get creative, without having to get a degree in graphic design. A tripod, GIF creators, and video editing apps make it possible to surprise a partner with your own sexy memento to savor and refer back to. The catch is that once you share an image, it is nearly impossible to take it back. Even though revenge porn is illegal in many states, that doesn’t always stop people from using your sexy pics against you, so it’s best to be cautious until you know someone well enough to trust your hot shots are in safe keeping.

Beyond sexting, technology is a salve for busy couples in general, and especially for those in long-distance relationships, or where one or both partners travel frequently for work. People are staying sexually connected now more than ever, even miles apart! Teledildonics companies have paired sex toys with apps that either partner can control. Sex sleeves (designed for male genitals) and vibrators (generally designed for female genitals) can be controlled remotely, giving you and your partner endless ways to tease and stimulate each other from across the world! Couple this technology with a video chat, and it’s as close to the real deal as you can get.

Used in moderation, technology is an instrument that can help you fully express your relational, erotic, and sexual potential. Used excessively, technology can create challenges with intimacy, provide an unhealthy escape from real life, and foster gaps in empathy, due to its built-in buffer from the full range of others’ nonverbal communication and feedback cues typically received in real time. There is no substitute for the smell of a lover’s hair, the sound of their laugh, the touch of their hand, and the taste of their kiss IRL, but technology can help bring people together, even when they have to be apart.

Dr. Kate Balestrieri is a licensed psychologist, certified sex therapist, certified sex addiction therapist, PACT therapist, and founder of Modern Intimacy, a group practice in Los Angeles, Miami, and Chicago. Listen to her podcast, Modern Intimacy, and follow her on IG @drkatebalestrieri.

The content provided in this article is provided for information purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice and consultation, including professional medical advice and consultation; it is provided with the understanding that Poosh, LLC (“Poosh”) is not engaged in the provision or rendering of medical advice or services. The opinions and content included in the article are the views of the author only, and Poosh does not endorse or recommend any such content or information, or any product or service mentioned in the article. You understand and agree that Poosh shall not be liable for any claim, loss, or damage arising out of the use of, or reliance upon any content or information in the article.

You may also like...

Go to article Is Everyone Having More Sex Than Me?
Sexual Wellness

Is Everyone Having More Sex Than Me?

Go to article Are Multiple Orgasms Really a Thing? 
HEALTH + WELLNESS

Are Multiple Orgasms Really a Thing? 

Related Articles

Goes to article Is Sacred Sex the Key to Living Your Best Life?
Sexual Wellness

Is Sacred Sex the Key to Living Your Best Life?

Goes to article Should You Be Using Your Vibrator on Your Boyfriend?
Sexual Wellness

Should You Be Using Your Vibrator on Your Boyfriend?

Goes to article What To Do If You Have a Higher Libido Than Your Partner
Sexual Wellness

What To Do If You Have a Higher Libido Than Your Partner

Goes to article How Mutual Masturbation Can Revamp Your Sex Life
Sexual Wellness

How Mutual Masturbation Can Revamp Your Sex Life

Goes to article The Benefits of Morning Sex
Sexual Wellness

The Benefits of Morning Sex

Goes to article Real Talk: Does Anyone Actually Like 69ing? 
Sexual Wellness

Real Talk: Does Anyone Actually Like 69ing? 

Goes to article “I Lost My Orgasm. How Do I Get It Back?”
Sexual Wellness

“I Lost My Orgasm. How Do I Get It Back?”

Goes to article Could Yoni Massage Be the Release You Need?
Sexual Wellness

Could Yoni Massage Be the Release You Need?

  • About
  • Contact
  • Terms & Conditions
  • Privacy Policy
  • Cookie Policy
  • California Privacy Rights
  • Affiliate Disclosure
  • Accessibility

Keep in Touch

instagram pinterest facebook twitter youtube join newsletter
Reviewed by Allyant for Accessibility
  • © poosh, llc
    All Rights Reserved