Unfortunately, first impressions matter—especially in the world of online dating. It’s easy to get so wrapped up in swiping, that we forget what vibe we’re putting out with our own pics. That’s where content creator, author, and posing expert Christine Buzan comes in.
“While a photo may be the thing that initially ignites attraction, the true value is going to be the conversation that follows. So, think of your photos as prompts to spark conversation, so you can find mutual interests and build deeper connections,” she says.
According to Christine, your dating profile should be a visual representation of your everyday life, passions, and interests. Before you begin, ask yourself:
- What am I passionate about?
- How do I spend my free time?
- What are some things I’ve accomplished that I’m proud of? (Your highlight reel)
Once you’ve answered these, you’re ready for your close-up. Whether you’re looking to wed or for a fun fling, next time you upload new pics to your profile with the hopes that two will become one, follow Chistine’s five tips below.
1. Start with an activity.
“You don’t want all of your photos to look like an OOTD or work headshot,” she says. If you’re really into pinball, she suggests snapping some photos at an arcade or wherever one of your favorite hobbies takes place. “When you’re in an environment where you feel happy and relaxed, that will show through in your photos, and it’s an immediate conversation starter with like-minded people.”
2. Interact with your surroundings.
Serving looks may be currency on social media, but according to Christine, it’s not enticing on your dating profile. “Instead of focusing on posing, try doing something in your photos,” she recommends. For those who aren’t at home in front of the camera, she says the easiest way to look candid is to give your hands something to do by holding a tennis racket or a cocktail or leaning them against a railing. “The goal is to look open and relaxed, instead of forced and posed.”
3. Use lighting to your advantage.
To get that flawless-looking skin (and clear pics), the right lighting is essential. “Avoid harsh, direct sunlight, and go for softer, natural light, shade, or the golden hour,” Christine says. “If you’re taking photos during nighttime activities, use an LED panel for a more flattering alternative to a flash.”
4. Choose from a wide range of angles and crops.
“You should have photos that are as dynamic as you are! There’s nothing worse than when someone posts the same photo five times on their dating profile,” she says. Christine recommends a mix of full-body and close-up photos to paint a full picture.
5. Incorporate “Easter eggs.”
Are you into a really niche band? A huge fan of a specific hockey team? Christine advises, “Use your clothing and environment to do some ‘IYKYK’ Easter eggs that will boost conversation.”
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