Aliyah Moore is a therapist with a Ph.D. in Gender and Sexuality Studies, and a resident Sexpert at SexualAlpha, who helps people embrace their sexuality.
A vagina massage might just sound like professional fingering, but it’s a centuries-old practice that began as yoni massages.
“Yoni” is the ancient Sanskrit word for “womb,” and yoni massages began as a spiritual practice that evolved into a medical one as people learned to better understand their bodies.
A standard masseuse won’t touch your genitals, but that doesn’t mean they don’t need the same tender love and care as the rest of your body. A yoni massage fills that gap by nurturing your pelvic muscles and connecting you to the health and sensation of your pu$$y.
So how does it work?
Many women practice yoni self-massage, but it feels more calming and sensational to have a partner do it for you. You can technically also go to a professional—although they’re a little harder to find.
Relaxation is key, so professionals usually rub your whole body and help you get to a peaceful place before moving on to the yoni massage. Once you feel tranquil, the masseuse will work on and around your vulva. They might work internally if you need healing there.
Women say that this helps relieve pain, intensify their orgasms, heal from sexual trauma, and improve their sex lives. Even if it’s not the goal, yoni massages often lead to orgasm.
Curious? There are plenty of different guides out there, but here’s a basic step-by-step:
1. Start with the stomach.
Gently work the abdominal muscles by applying pressure with your fingers and moving them around. These muscles can press on your pelvic floor, so relaxing them helps release vaginal tension.
2. Take a detour.
The pros recommend teasing and stimulating your nipples and gently massaging your breasts. This helps connect your sensuality with your muscular healing, and it may arouse you, which makes the yoni massage easier.
3. Steadily close in.
Move your hands slowly toward your vagina, taking time to squeeze any tension out of your inner thighs and hips as you close in.
4. Breathe and focus.
Maintain deep breathing while you massage your inner and outer labia. Focus on one area at a time, and try to connect with the sensations in that specific place before moving on.
5. Cup and circle.
In your hand, cup your vulva, and build up to a pressure that feels right for you. Circle your hand slowly to improve blood flow and nurture all areas equally.
6. Experiment with your clit.
Tenderly circle your clit with varying levels of pressure and different motions. Push on it with slow pulsing movements before gently pulling and pushing. Don’t move too quickly. The goal is to allow your muscles to feel everything, rather than racing to an orgasm.
7. Focus on yourself.
Explore what you like or dislike, and discover what areas need healing or attention. A yoni massage is all about connecting with yourself, so don’t be afraid of new sensations or taking it slow.
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