Tale as old as time—exes all coming back at once. We’ve touched on this topic before, but today we’re expanding on the quarantine edition thanks to our editor, Michelle Scanga’s pov. Read her thoughts on exes (and ex-hookups) resurfacing during the Q.
It was day four of quarantine (yes, only took four days of restrictions from officials), and I already had at least three old flings popping up in my messages (DMs, texts, etc.). Goes without saying, for some reason, they always come in waves—but whatever, keep reading …
Two things to kick it off, 1) I’m not naive. I know that most likely they are bored and craving attention (I’m just as guilty when it comes to lusting for some excitement and entertainment). And 2) I’d never mention names, of course—I wouldn’t want a potential s/o to see this and think I only spark conversation to source content ideas because that’s definitely not the case. I’m sharing because I was talking about this with my girlfriends and they felt the same way with ex-flings hitting them up.
So let’s dig into how to best tackle responding, entertaining the convo, and setting expectations. I’ll keep it brief with my personal take as I’m no dating expert, but I do love crowdsourcing opinions. Here’s what I’ve gathered.
• If you respond to someone, you’re most likely not interested in meeting up post-quarantine. Sure, you can entertain the banter for a bit (this is me being a Gemini and playing both sides), but you should be upfront about it and not waste either of your time. Easier said than done … (working on it).
• I haven’t done this (it’s crowdsourced advice from a friend), but let yourself be vulnerable and straight up have an honest conversation on what you both are looking for so you know what to expect post-quarantine. #adulting
• Let yourself have FaceTime fun and casual conversation (we all need something to make us smile right now).
• Not to be a Debbie Downer, but don’t get your hopes up—have your guard up a bit. As I said, everyone is so bored right now, hence the sudden burst of communication. Ultimately, trust your gut but keep an eye out for behavior patterns.
• Ignore them if you want to, and don’t feel guilty about not responding if you truly have no desire. It might be a no-brainer, but it never hurts to have a friendly reminder that you’re not obligated to give your attention where you don’t want to.
• Remember you have the power to throw your time (and to be blunt as Kendall put it, “cooch”) where you want it. Don’t forget that.
OK, that’s all I can come up with for now. But I know I’m not alone in this situation so I want to know: how are you guys handling exes (whatever box they fall in) resurfacing during this time? Share your thoughts and tips on Instagram. Because the more you know, you know.
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