First things first, only move things to the rougher sexual side if you and your partner are comfortable with it. If you’re both on the same page and want to dip into the kink culture, we’ve got some starter tips for you. As Casey Tanner, therapist, writer, and founder of QueerSexTherapy, already shared with us, “If you enjoy rough sex with a consenting partner, there’s no need to overanalyze it. Perhaps you enjoy the passion that comes with that kind of intensity, or maybe the physical sensations just feel incredible. Sometimes, folks enjoy rough sex because it helps them take their mind off of stress or performance anxiety and keeps them in the moment. Other times, rough sex is desirable because it allows them to tap into the forbidden, which is often erotic.”
Sound tempting? Read on to learn different ways to get rowdy in the bedroom.
Gently pull your partner’s hair or ask for them to yank it (if you want it rougher) while you’re riding reverse.
Invest in toys like this sparkly whip to use during foreplay.
Handcuff or tie your partner up (you can use a sexy piece of silk if you don’t own handcuffs) and tell them to close their eyes while you massage and play before oral.
Have your partner pin you up against the wall during a steamy makeout session.
Scratch and gently dig your nails into your partner’s back while you’re straddling them.
Hickies can also be a playful way to crank up foreplay. Every time you look at it, you won’t be able to stop thinking about your wild night, and it’ll make you crave more.
Try biting each other right around the hip area. Add a few licks while you’re biting to keep it sexy. Repeat: only do this if you and your partner are both comfortable with it. Seeing subtle bite marks on your body the next day can really turn some people on (guilty!).
Little nibbles. Softly bite their lower lip while you’re kissing or put their finger in your mouth and give it a gentle bite.
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