Little PSA…penis-owners aren’t the only ones who deserve a little suction.
This is something I’ve always known as a major fan of having my yoni worshiped. But it was officially confirmed upon my trial (which is, by this point, a long-term, committed relationship) with the Aer Suction Toy by Dame.
Don’t get me wrong—I know they aren’t the first to do it. But in my experience, they are the best. And I’ve tried a few.
I know exactly what I like when a partner is down there, and I make sure to communicate it to them. Toys however, seem to have one mode (even when they have multiple modes, they have one motor and one design) and are a little less, mmm, flexible to my whims.
While others have felt a bit too aggressive (not trying to Hoover my clit off, thanks), this toy is my Goldilocks moment of all suction vibrators—just right. If you want to show your partner just what pressure to use, introduce this toy to them, and let them get a feel for it. It does have some higher intensity options, but they are all very comfortable and very close to the real deal if solo play is ruling this era for you.
The situation with sucking when it comes to clitorises (clitori?) is that it’s just not the same motion or technique as going down on a penis. It’s about creating a vacuum, but with some finesse. It’s not one motion, but a suction, plus a tease of the tongue. Don’t let your partner get lazy or else it’s relatively pointless.
This might be a real left-brain-right-brain moment for your partner with the multiple factors to consider, but you know what? Tell ‘em “you’re welcome” for the cognitive exercise. They can skip sudoku tonight.
While I want to shout from the mountain tops this very important technique for the benefit of all vulva and clit-owners, this isn’t a cunnilingus lesson (but if you send this article to your partner, it’s not NOT helpful). This is an extremely honest, satisfied review.
You won’t catch me gatekeeping orgasms.
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