Hi, Michelle again, your girl with the inside Poosh scoop. I recently spilled the best skincare secrets I’ve learned since working with Kourt over the past two-ish years. Today, I’m shifting the topic with a little nugget of relationship advice—the simple yet solid (pandemic) dating wisdom I unsolicitedly received from Scott earlier this year.
I don’t know who else needs to hear it, but I guarantee anyone who found dating this year a big bust will relate and appreciate it too. So, this one’s for you, and cheers to 2021.
We were having a Poosh team meeting in Malibu (yes, everyone was COVID tested before). I was catching up with our Ad Sales Director, Sam Hyatt, who I hadn’t seen in person for months—so naturally, she was asking about life updates, including my dating situation.
I told her I was talking to a couple of people but I wasn’t seeing anyone seriously and kind of gave up on trying to meet someone this year. This is funny/ironic (to me, at least) because, at the beginning of 2020, I finally came to terms with being ready to date seriously and, IDK, maybe be in a relationship. Fast-forward to March, the pandemic hit, and that manifestation shifted. Lol.
Back to the story: Sam was asking about the men in my life, and I was explaining that I had high hopes for my love life this year, but with stay-at-home orders and social distancing, it’s been difficult, etc. If you’re single, you feel me.
Meanwhile, Scott was nearby and piped in with, “2020 isn’t the year to find love. Focus on your career, and get money in the bank.” Some pretty straightforward advice that I needed to hear.
I nodded and replied with, ya, good point.
For some reason, when it was said out loud, it clicked. My mindset shifted from “Well, here’s another year of being single” to “Who cares, I have a great job, I’m healthy, my friends and family are healthy—so what if finding a boyfriend didn’t work out as I had hoped.” I accepted it just wasn’t going to happen this year. (And to be clear, I’m not desperate to find a bf. I’ve been happily single for, meh, six-ish years, but as I said earlier, I had finally decided I’m ready to take dating seriously, and who knows, maybe settle down with someone.)
The moral of all of this is, life will continue to throw curveballs (hello, 2020) that are out of your control. The important thing (and big-picture reminder) is to always prioritize and focus on self-growth and the personal goals that are in your control. The rest will follow.
Thanks for the pep talk, Disick.