If you somehow missed it, we’re big proponents of PDA here at Poosh. (Give us all the Kravis.) It can be easy to see it as over-the-top, but we’re here to make an argument that PDA can be a form of self-care. Just like other self-care practices, it’s not for everyone—but hear us out.
Ofc, we got this idea from Kourt. She has said before that public displays of affection with Travis help her to be present and pretend like no one else is there—something that can be difficult because she gets shy.
It’s incredibly common to see couples on their phones, right next to each other, barely speaking or touching. Not because they’re in a fight or something is wrong, but because … that’s just what people do now.
Naturally, PDA is especially important for those with physical touch as their love language. “Hugs, pats on the back, and thoughtful touches on the arm—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love,” Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, tells us. “Physical presence and accessibility are crucial.”
Ofc, if you’re uncomfortable making out in the middle of the street, you shouldn’t feel pressure to do so. There are other ways to express PDA that can make both you and your partner feel good.
Maybe, as relationship coach Claire Byrne tells us in this article about what to do if you and your partner have different love languages, it’s something as simple as holding their hand in public because you know it makes them feel emotionally safe and adored. “Or put your hand on their leg under the table at a group dinner (not suggesting getting frisky here, but you do you) to let them feel connected to you in the way they desire?” she adds.
And PDA can benefit those of us with other love languages as well.
Being in the moment can not only help manage stress, it can also strengthen relationships. Also, physical displays of affection are important in a relationship.
Studies have also shown that couples who touch each other are happier. Touch conveys emotions and stimulates the production of the “love hormone” oxytocin.
So let’s be more present with our lovers. Let’s sit on the same side of the booth at restaurants. Let’s make out in bars. Let’s be wholly there with someone, doing what we want to, pretending there’s nobody else in the world.
Even if it’s just for a moment.
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