Some days you got it, some days you don’t. And that’s it, right? Not exactly. While it’s completely human to have fluctuating moods, tempers, emotions, and reactions, we hold a lot more control than it feels like sometimes, even when it comes to interacting with others. It just takes practiced awareness to harness and exercise that control.
Everything we see, feel, and interact with, and even the very essence of our being, is energy. Our energy manipulates and creates situations that make our lives the way that they are. That’s why the power of manifestation is, while seemingly intangible, incredibly powerful. But if the term “energy” doesn’t ring clear, Heather Askinosie, co-founder of Energy Muse, is here to shed some crystalline light on the matter.
“Although it may not always feel like it, we are all in control of our energy. And during a time period where very little is within our control, acknowledging this and taking full advantage of it is especially important.” And oftentimes, your conditioned habits of predicting your own energy or moods is what creates them. If before bed you tend to think, “I have so much to do tomorrow, it’s going to be an exhausting day,” then you just might be calibrating your morning energy to feel impatient, grumpy, and tired. This can also have a lot to do with who you surround yourself with.
“A crucial component of how we feel is our environment, and the people we spend time with and encounter can definitely play a role in how we feel internally,” Askinosie shares. When she’s feeling down, the first thing she does is evaluate the people she’s interacting with and allowing into her energy field. “People can uplift and inspire us, but they can also drain and deplete us, depending on the boundaries we set and how well we are able to separate ourselves from others.”
Take note of how you feel when you’re with certain people. Do you feel drained? Inspired? Uneasy? Excited? If you feel an overwhelming sense of dread, maybe it’s time to cut that person from your life. But sometimes the connection is not so easily severed, and cutting off the transfer of energy is more accessible.
Don’t worry, you don’t have to be enlightened to adjust the energy around and within you. Askinosie has a technique she uses often when her energy feels heavy after being around someone. She calls it “cord-cutting, which allows me to detach myself from the person or situation that’s weighing me down.”
Crystals are not only beautiful, but they’re also great talismans of comfort to carry with you, especially in predicaments with people you know to be tricky or clash with your own energy. “I like to use crystals in this energy healing practice, which helps to break the energetic cord between you and that other person or situation. After you’ve cut the cords, you can use that same crystal to set an intention of refilling and replenishing your energy so you feel your best again.”
But crystals aren’t just to protect you from others’ energy; they can even help protect you from your own, or serve as reminders to adjust your energy to let the good in. “Even if you’re not cutting the cords, a crystal is the perfect touchstone to remind you that your energy is your own and that it’s up to you to keep your energy protected and at its highest vibration. The crystal gives you something to hold onto that brings you back to your best state of being.”
Try keeping a rose quartz or amethyst at your nightstand, or a smoky quartz or geometric pyrite near your workspace. Before you retire for the night, remind yourself that you hold the power in deciding how you wake up and face the day, how you interact with people, and how you maintain your composure and balance. And don’t beat yourself up if you don’t master it immediately. It takes practice to become resilient.
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