The reality is, we are manifesting all the time. Consciously or unconsciously, intentionally or unintentionally. For better or for worse, everything in your life—all circumstances, life lessons, and experiences—you’ve manifested. All partners, living conditions, job opportunities, finances … everything comes from a thought, a belief, or an action that originated from you and, in turn, created the world you currently live in. It’s the law of the Universe.
So, let’s get into how to manifest the relationship you want.
1. Get clear on what you want, and be as specific as possible.
Highlight what you want in your partner (e.g. kind, sexy, smart), as well as how being in that relationship will make you feel (e.g. loved, safe, special). This is a great time to start writing a list. Manifesting is about conjuring a theoretical into something tangible and real. Writing it out helps you understand what you actually want and sends a crystal-clear memo to the quantum field, where all possibilities lie for the taking.
2. Align your belief system.
Make sure there’s no conflict around what it is you want. Is there some part of you that likes the bad-boy drama or that feels unworthy of love? Notice that discrepancy within, and be clear with yourself that you’re now ready for a new experience around love and partnership.
Assert this to yourself daily through affirmations such as: “I am ready for a big love story in my life and I’m letting go of anything in me that doesn’t resonate with love, healing, true compatibility, and deep intimacy.” This is where you meet the Universe halfway.
3. Know that you’re worthy.
Remind yourself of all the good that you already are, and all the good you already have. You’re manifesting from a place of wholeness and worthiness, not lack and neediness. You are loved and supported by the Universe.
Come from this place of power and connection. Get quiet. Try meditating or conscious rounds of deep, intentional breathing to put yourself in an open, still state—so you’re firing on all focused cylinders, to the exclusion of all else.
4. Conjure it up on the mind’s inner screen.
See yourself with all the glorious details in your fabulous relationship: laughing, holding hands, making dinner, walking the beach together … whatever symbolizes the epitome of relationship bliss to you. The key is to add as many details to the vision as possible: sights, sounds, smells, and feelings. Feel the joy of that connection, the freedom, safety, and love you have with that person. Focus on the feelings this connection conjures in you.
Getting caught in the details of their physical appearance can put limits on it, and asking for “tall, dark and handsome” might bring you a gorgeous jerk … again. So stay with the quality of the relationship and the depth of emotions between you.
5. Know that it’s on its way to you.
What you’ve just experienced in the visioning is coming down the pipeline. Feel in your bones. Become willing to give up knowing the timing of how and when it gets here. And because you know for certain it is indeed coming, you can now let go of the obsession of wanting it, and the restlessness of needing it.
You affirm your gratitude for what’s imminently on its way to you. You detach from trying to control or manage the details around it. You surrender it all to the intelligent Universe that knows you and knows how to deliver it in the perfect time, in the perfect way.
6. Repeat all the above steps daily.
Breathe. Get centered. Conjure the vision with all its visceral details. Feel all the powerful feelings it evokes in you, then express gratitude for it, knowing it’s coming. And then let it go to the Universe to do its thang.
7. Take action steps in your day-to-day life around it.
This is another way to meet the Universe halfway and to do your part. Take that leap of faith that affirms you believe this connection is real and coming to you. Stop dating people who don’t align with what you’re manifesting. And then take positive steps that give the Universe an opportunity or context to deliver them to you, like joining a dating app. This is called doing the footwork.
8. Trust that it’s happening.
Remember your intention: you are manifesting through the quantum field—energetically—instead of self-will. Keep the vibration high. Keep doing your affirmations or looking at your list as reminders that what you know is sorting itself out and finding its way to you.
Like it or not, you are always manifesting. It’s the Law of Attraction in action. What you think about often, you create. So you might as well create intentionally. Remember that you can manifest anything: people, places, things, your evolution, healing, or circumstances. It can be material or metaphysical.
It’s all up for grabs, you master manifester, you. Go get it.
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Ryan Haddon, ACC, CH, is a certified Life and Spiritual Coach, as well as a hypnotherapist. She works remotely with clients globally, helping them create their best life. You can follow her on IG @ryan.haddon or visit her website www.ryanhaddon.com.
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