In Part One of this Poosh-exclusive series, Kourtney let us in on the mindset shifts that helped her redefine success, protect her peace, and evolve her style. Now, in Part Two, she’s sharing more wisdom.
From unplugging with purpose to choosing balance over burnout, here are five more of Kourtney’s life lessons.
Put your phone away—like, as much as you can. I’ve started leaving mine in another room on purpose, because I really want to be present with anything I’m doing– family time– time with my husband, my kids, my sisters, a home design meeting, a lemme brainstorm– whatever it is, I want to be fully experiencing it. Also, our brains weren’t designed to be taking in this much information all of the time. I saw recently that there had been a study in 2009 saying that Americans consumed the equivalent of 100,000 words or watching 16 movies each day, and I can only imagine it has gone up since then, which is wild.
When I am on my phone, I try to be really mindful of what I’m looking at, because what you consume matters. If you’re constantly taking in negativity, it affects your mood, your thoughts, everything. I love using my phone for inspiration, but I’ve learned to be intentional about it. You don’t need to see everything, and you don’t need to be available 24/7. Real life is better than scrolling.
2. Prioritize wellness, but don’t stress about it.
I’m really passionate about wellness and taking care of myself, but I’ve learned not to take it to extremes.
Health and wellness should feel good, not stressful. It’s about balance. I love eating healthy, moving my body, and trying new things like infrared saunas or lymphatic drainage, but I also love gluten free pizza nights with my kids or staying in bed watching movies on a rainy day. It should feel like something you want to do, not have to do. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about feeling good and living in a way that supports that.
3. Trust the timing of your life.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is to trust in God’s timing. Don’t buy into the pressure of friends and family and societal expectations when it comes to where you should be at a certain point in your life. Whether it’s relationships, work, or personal goals—everything happens when it’s meant to, in God’s time. There’s so much pressure to have everything figured out by a certain age. But honestly, some of the most beautiful things in my life happened later or when I least expected them to happen. Getting married, having babies, blending our families, launching new projects—it all happened when it was meant to. Along the way, I learned to stop comparing my journey to anyone else’s. Things don’t have to happen on someone else’s timeline to be right.
Now, I try to just live in the moment– trusting that what’s meant for me will come when it’s supposed to.
4. Make your space a sanctuary.
Your environment is everything. I’ve always been obsessed with making a space feel calm and beautiful– for me, that could even be simple things like organizing a drawer, lighting a candle or some palo santo, or starting the morning with my favorite playlist.
I also like to be intentional with what I bring into my home. Obviously, I try to only use clean and organic products in my home. But I also love finding special items that spark joy or remind me of a person, trip, or memory. I want to look around my home and feel at peace, but also reminded of the adventures I’ve had and the things my kids and husband and myself love.
Whether it’s your home, your workspace, or even your phone background, surround yourself with what brings you peace and sparks joy. It makes such a difference in your mood and how you feel every day. We all deserve to feel good in our space.
5. Not everything is for the internet.
There’s so much pressure to put your whole life out there, but I’ve learned that keeping things private can be powerful. Some things are just for you, your family, or your close friends.
Just because you didn’t post it, doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. I’ve found so much peace in releasing the pressure to post and the stress to make sure everything looks perfect on social media– keeping certain things private, whether it’s family moments, a project I’m working on, or just time to myself. On the other hand, if you are going to post, post it for yourself to enjoy and look back on. It should feel authentic to you without all the pressure of posting something just so it will perform well.
Missed Part One? Read more of Kourtney’s life lessons here.
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