Just like seasons, emotions come and go, and we all experience good days, bad days, and everything in between. When the not-so-great days hit, if we let ourselves get too in our heads, it can sometimes feel like things will never get better. Today, we’re suggesting another approach: simply normalizing the fact that it’s OK to not feel OK every day of the year and to even have really shitty days throughout the month—especially during the chaotic world we’re living in right now.
Licensed clinical psychologist, Jennifer Galvan, puts it this way: “Embrace the melancholy. Embrace the darkness. Embrace the journey. There’s light at the end of a dark tunnel, and this feeling won’t last forever.”
It’s human and completely normal to not have a positive outlook 24/7, and it’s important to avoid suppressing the moments (or days) when we’re feeling down, upset, or lost. To help find comfort during these spans, we’re sharing tips the Poosh team leans on.
• Give yourself a time limit to feel shitty and truly feel the feels (this song is great to let out a good cry). For example, you can say, “OK, I’m going to give myself a day or an afternoon to wallow, and tomorrow I’ll pick myself back up.”
• Do your best to avoid shaming yourself for feeling down. Instead, at the end of the day, thank your body and organs for working and getting you through the day. These are stressful, crazy times. Give yourself a pat on the back (or a bath!) for just getting through the day.
• Be easy on yourself and think of it this way—if you wouldn’t say or give the advice running through your head to a child, then don’t say it to yourself.
• Little things like treating yourself to a small gift at the end of the day or week can be monumental during times of chaos. It can be as simple as a glass of wine, online shopping, or meditation—whatever your fancy. You’ve earned it, so have something to look forward to.
• Take a break from social media and instead listen to an uplifting playlist to bring back positive memories.
• Call a friend or family member and cry it out, as long as you’re not constantly dumping your problems on them (read: venting vs. dumping here). Keep in mind they might be going through a tough time as well, so make sure to check in on them too!
• Schedule 10-minute stretch breaks or time to walk outside and clear your mind. You can also take the time while you’re walking to write out your thoughts, which can help free up some headspace.
• Last but not least, take it day by day. Sometimes thinking too far into the future can cause an even deeper spiral when you’re feeling down. Live in the moment!