Pleasure is our birthright.
Yet, for some, experiencing out-of-this-world orgasmic pleasure is reserved as a wishful byproduct of penetrative sex with a partner. The truth is, every body has the power to awaken their most authentic, erotic energy on their own terms. One of the easiest ways to discover your sauciest turn-ons and have hair-raising pleasure on demand is through the somatic practice of Arousal Mapping.
Arousal Mapping is a somatic practice where you awaken your sensual body through the mindful exploration of erogenous zones. You can “map” your arousal with different fabrics or objects that activate your senses, like silky clothes, feathers, rose petals, your choice! (Yes, your beloved vibrator is welcomed here).
Remember—the best way to map is to go at your own pace.
Set aside 20 to 30 minutes in a safe, comfortable space where you are free of distraction. Begin by setting an intention or burning incense, anything to set the mood. Focus on your intention while tuning into your breath. Start by laying on your back and breathing deep into your belly, allowing any initial rocking or circling of the hips to be explored.
When you’re ready, ask your body, “Where do I desire to be touched?”
You will feel your body draw your attention to one specific place. Grab one of your sensory activating items or use your hands, bringing a light tickle to where your body desires to be touched. Maybe you find an erogenous zone hotspot that you’ve never thought to explore.
Note: Your erogenous zones are primed for arousal with a high concentration of nerve endings that will respond differently to various types of touch. The backs of your knees, neck, or inner thighs, for example, may light up in sensory overload from gentle taps, firm pressure, or a light caress. Feel free to focus anywhere on the body, not just your genitals.
Shift to a different part of the body when you want and take your time. Keep returning to the simple question, “Where do I desire to be touched?” Keep letting your body’s deepest, most authentic desires guide your exploration. The more space and time you give yourself to explore, the more juicy information you’ll receive from your body that lets you know what types of touch and which erogenous zones turn you on the most.
Bring your mapping experience to a close when you feel ready to end. Maybe that means you’re inspired to orgasm and are pleasuring yourself with your favorite toy. Or, maybe you close your practice by bringing your hands to your heart, feeling the electricity of heightened arousal surge through you. Journaling or engaging in any creative expression to bring your map to life on paper is highly encouraged!
Arousal Mapping is a powerful practice to cultivate somatic sensuality and kick self-pleasure shame to the curb. Indulge in this empowering practice anytime you feel disconnected from your erotic energy. You deserve it!
Desi Monique, founder of Sensual Somatic LLC and masters student in Women’s Spirituality, Gender, and Social Justice at CIIS, is a somatic sex educator and sensual dance advocate who is passionate about pleasure liberation for sexual trauma survivors. She’s mentored 80+ women globally in her trauma-informed Sensual Embodiment™ facilitator training.
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